10 Things You Should Never Say To Your Child

All parents want their kids to progress and become good adults one day. From teaching them manners to telling them about how to clean their room, parents try everything. Today we discuss 10 things you should never tell your child that parents commonly end up saying. These 10 thing can hurt you child in more than one way and eventually might end up hurting you as well ! 

1.)

When a compliment is immediately followed by a 'but,' it places the focus on the negative instead of the positive. All the positive reinforcement, self-esteem boost, and motivation gained from the compliment are lost as soon as 'but' is uttered.


2.)

Every parent wants to believe their child is a genius in the making, and having high academic expectations of them can help them do better — up to a certain point. Put all the emphasis on grades and achievement and it will backfire, making them do worse in school.

3.)

What may look like a small thing to you — a scrape, a broken crayon, a lost toy — really is a big thing to your child. It's easy to get annoyed and brush it off, but you should take it seriously.

4.)

You should never in anger tell your child that "you're just like your mom or dad" in a negative manner. This psychologically affects them and makes them want to change their unique nature. Try to only compare in a positive manner. Then the child will develop better emotions towards you and everyone around.

5.)

You can't expect kids to act like adults because they're not adults. If a child is doing a behavior that seems babyish, look at the situation. Often they revert to old behaviors when they're nervous, anxious, or scared. Instead of shaming them, listen to their feelings.

6.)

Never compare your child to any other child or even any person. This will only develop complex feelings in your child instead of making them better. Instead try making them feel special and letting them know, everyone is unique and has their own ways including you.

7.)

When we tell our children they can't do something, we're saying we don't believe in them or think they are not as good as others. But each child needs to know that their parents love them and have confidence them. We should look for what our children can do, not what they can't.

8.)

Your parent's parenting style is the guide you were given for how to be a parent — but that doesn't mean everything they did was right. When it comes to parenting, it's more important to understand the needs of your child then it is to raise them the exact same way you were raised.

9.)

Shame is a concept that younger children don't yet understand. When you tell them they should be ashamed of themselves, all they hear is that mom or dad is mad at them and they don't know why. Even worse, shaming may lead older children to be more defiant and aggressive.

10.)

When you routinely tell your kids, "Don't bother me" or "I'm busy," they internalize that message. They begin to think there's no point in talking to you because you're always brushing them off. If you set up that pattern when your children are small, then they may be less likely to tell you things as they get older.

Share This Post & Let Us Know 

In The Comments What You Think